Johnny’s World: Failure

November 29, 2012 9:48 AM11 comments

The failures in life are the most important. The failures in life are what make us stronger. The failures in life teach us to succeed next time. The failures in life suck.

Every task that we take on in life has the ability to be a success or a failure. Something as mundane as a trip to Starbucks can even end in defeat. Did you acquire your coffee or didn’t you? The main task at hand is getting coffee but there are a million other chances for disaster on your journey to caffeine. Is there gas in the car or could the lack of gas keep you from the coffee? Is there someone who doesn’t know how to drive that you’ll have an accident with and end up in the hospital instead of the comfy chair at Starbucks? Will a volcano erupt over Iceland and scramble flight patterns keeping you from the only brew you wanted from Ethiopia? Life can be so hard.

There are so many published works about the character building traits of failure, but in reality you failed and you are looking desperately for someone or something to blame. I once told the worlds media at the Olympics that I didn’t perform well because my aura was black and I missed a bus to the arena and had to find other means of transportation in a foreign country and it just wasn’t my night. Couldn’t I have just told them I was nervous and didn’t have a good skate? A sane person perhaps would have gone with the uttermost truth, but while I didn’t lie, I still had to find a way to describe my feelings to the world and have them understand me. This plan of course backfired and I got cast as an insane lady-boy who believes in auras and can’t read a bus timetable.

Whether you are an athlete, a doctor, or a garbage man it is always easier to blame something ridiculous on your flaws than to deal with the main thing that caused your failure, it’s usually yourself. We have parents that dote on us, grandparents that spoil us, teachers willing us to succeed and through all of that we build an ego that doesn’t allow failure. We are constantly put up against huge opponents whether it’s winning the Olympics or getting into an Ivy League school and due to our upbringings, for the most part, we don’t expect or know how to deal with things when they don’t go our way.

If we constantly thought about failure, we wouldn’t leave our homes. We wouldn’t have the strength to work or make money and we wouldn’t survive as a society. Life is competition and according to Kelly Clarkson, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” If we compete on a daily basis against life and its seemingly unlimited opportunities, we have to be ready to lose sometimes. We have to find victories, even when we lose. There is the ultimate goal of victory, but to win you have to win over the entire process of achievement. If you didn’t win first place, what were the area’s where you did succeed? Were your essays on the bar exam incredible and you only had issues with a few multiple-choice questions? That is a victory.

It’s easier said than done to focus on lesser goals than you’d originally set for yourself. I, for example, haven’t won the Olympics yet. I have won lots of other competitions. I’ve improved my skills when and wherever needed. I have explored different realms of art and choreography to try to get a leg up on the competition, but are all those victories enough? Probably not, but to continue on I have to look at my successes as ‘enough’. I have to be proud of what I’ve accomplished even when it’s not ideal. Your accomplishments and victories are the most important aspect of life. Your lives, children, families, salaries, all are victories. I challenge you to believe in your failures as much as the victories you may take for granted. Grace in failure is what creates character and strength, and it creates the opportunity for you to win another day. Believe in yourself.

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  • Julie Findon

    Wonderful essay, Johnny. Articulate, appropriate and thoughtful.

  • http://www.facebook.com/AngelYossy Joni Yossy

    JOHNNY, ARIGATOU!”Believe in failure as much as victory” Your words always encourage me(^-^)!GANBARU!

  • http://twitter.com/nancyknisley Nancy Knisley

    In my opinion, this is Johnny’s best essay so far.

    All of us fail at some time in some way. Fortunately, most of us don’t have to fail as publicly as an Olympic athlete does.

  • Laura_85

    So encouraging text! I simply loved it. Thank you, Johnny! :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/barbara.breuer Barbara Erickson Breuer

    Bravo!

  • BitterestPhil

    Uh, Johnny, that’s a famous quote from Nietzsche that Kelly Clarkson used. Maybe you should try reading something more challenging than Twitter. But, why bother when fans of reality tv tell you everything you do is brilliant?

    • http://twitter.com/ac_bitter AB

      I’m thinking Johnny attributed the quote to Kelly Clarkson with tongue firmly in cheek, as you would when ascribing that much wisdom to a pop song. Even those who don’t know the quote is Nietzsche heard it before the Clarkson song and know it didn’t originate with her.

  • http://www.facebook.com/mary.dzyacky Mimi Dzyacky

    Brilliant Johnny! Just Brilliant!

  • disqus_sHcswFIjiH

    Thank you Johnny for this encouraging text!! This morning when I have so many doubts and worries in my mind, this text means so much to me!! Thanks again and again!!! I wish you the best in your life and your skating carrier!! Hold on, you are a so kind and valuable person, we love you!! <3

  • http://www.facebook.com/schismatic.beam Schismatic Beam

    Thank you, Johnny, for sharing your wisdom. Believing in oneself is really hard, but it makes a world of difference. Sometimes the world is not ready to listen, but we all must thank Vincent van Gogh and his patron-brother Theo for carrying on despite the lack of popular acclaim. So please carry on, Johnny, and take us on your journeys with you.

  • http://www.facebook.com/schismatic.beam Schismatic Beam

    In response to one comment and in defense of Johnny’s fans, a great number of whom are quite intelligent and discerning…. For the record, I knew that Friedrich Nietzche is the originator of the quote, having listened to a lecture course on Nietzsche by the late UT Professor Robert C. Solomon, having read long passages from Nietzsche in German as part of a 300-level German literature course at an Ivy League university, and having appreciated Nietzsche’s aphorisms that facilitate access to his philosophy. But Kelly Clarkson also gets credit for singing Nietzsche’s words in a way that moves people and shows real talent. Also, Johnny owns a bookshelf packed with thick books (glanced at by the camera on “Be Good Johnny Weir,” and he studies Russian grammar books, reads WWII history, Russian books, novels, fashion books, a daily newspaper, etc. Many of Johnny’s fans were fans of Johnny as an articulate skater before his reality series came out. And, no, I am not a fan of reality TV, except for “Be Good Johnny Weir.”

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