Johnny’s World: I Believe in You

March 14, 2013 10:06 AM12 comments

weir-mugWe are often taught to believe that destiny is what we make it. The hard work and the years of dedication to a simple goal can pay off if you believe in it and want it badly enough.

This idea takes me back to when “The Secret” was all the rage. As someone chasing after his dreams, I was constantly gifted the book. I was told it would change my life, and that visualization could and most probably would determine my fate. I can say from personal experience that if you are committed to something, whether it be a marriage, the Olympics, becoming a managing partner at your firm, or even a home owner, it is possible to achieve because you work hard for it. But I have also grown enough to know that the idea that the ability all lies within you is a load of crap.

We rely on people for everything. I’ll choose from my own examples here and discuss home ownership. Unless you’re paying cash that you’ve earned yourself, you rely on others to get you into the home of your dreams. You rely on a cunning real estate agent to get you into the home and neighborhood of your choice. You rely on the bank to officiate your mortgage and loans. You rely on credit score companies, who I still don’t think even exist, to make sure your numbers are all okay. You rely on movers to carry your couch from one place to another. And, of course, you rely on other people to sell you their home, build you a home, and have the whole process that you’re going through to go equally sublimely for them.

Going to the Olympics is a tough job that not many people will ever fully understand or experience. It is also a job that relies on other people, no matter how perfectly you perform. I am an Olympic hopeful for one year from now, and due to my own choices, I am sitting on a couch while my countrymen are competing at the World Figure Skating Championships, which is the event that decides the amount of spots each country will have for next February’s games. The maximum number of entries is three, the minimum is zero, and I am sitting here banking on two less experienced American men placing between places one and 12 or 12 and 25 to determine whether we have one, two, or three placements. If we do only achieve one spot for the Olympics, which is a possibility, that means that next January during our Olympic qualification event, the entire United States community of men’s skaters will be fighting for one spot. I rely on these guys to ensure that I even have the option of competing in my third Olympics, let alone sporting politics, judges, training costs, possible death, or Jesus striking me down for some horrible sin I have yet to commit.

I often write about the necessity for a strong team of people around you, whatever your life’s direction. Your team can stretch from one to a billion people (if you’re Lady Gaga), but the simple fact that as a community, humans can achieve very little on their own is slightly discouraging. We all want to believe that anything is possible, but without standing on someone else’s shoulders or believing in another human’s conviction, talents or ability, you go inches instead of miles. If you have cancer, do you diagnose and treat yourself, or rely on a medical professional to save you? If you are on trial, do you not have to trust a lawyer to fight for you regardless of your personal guilt?

I am a believer in God, Chanel, and, above all, myself, but I never forget who I’ve had to rely on, overpower or step on to become everything I could be and will be. A good Russian friend of mine said to me once, while discussing a powerful man both in Russia and the Soviet Union, “He is happy and powerful, but for him to become happy and powerful, imagine the amount of dead bodies he had to walk over.” Believe in yourself, but expect some help along the way.

  • fordaydreams

    First of all, I want to say I love your blog. Read it every week. You are a fabulous individual and a very eloquent writer. I think many people misinterpret The Secret. That they can sit there and magic will happen. But the ability to do anything requires desire and work.
    Ability denotes something you can do. So that definitely requires “doing”. The book says that you need to follow where the clues are taking you, the clues (messages/ signs) are helping you and generally they are leading you to more people or messages. That is the point of that. But it is definitely up to the individual to follow those messages and get help. All things are possible. And belief in oneself is paramount to that. Visualization has been proven to be to the mind, the same as reality. If you envision eating a lemon, your lips pucker and saliva kicks in. Bottom line, if you cant see yourself doing it, you wont.
    Melissa J Carter (fordaydreams)

  • Marie

    Hello Johnny, I am 18 years old, I live in London (even though I’m American), and you are my ALL TIME favorite figure skater in the WORLD. You are the one of the BEAUTIFUL creatures and artists alive and i really mean that. However, I find it confusing that you REPEATEDLY contradict yourself in your posts or interviews. You say that you are a Roman Catholic and believe in God and yet…you are constantly breaking the Commandments of the Catholic Church. You can’t break God’s Commandments and expect a free pass to Heaven. I mean, being homosexual is fine and not wrong AT ALL but actively living out that kind of lifestyle is repeatedly condemned in the Bible. You either love Jesus or hate Him. He’s a DANGEROUS man because His words can send a person to Hell or Heaven. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8gUO75KhGc Like that guy who Jesus talked about in the Bible who found himself in Hell. He claimed that “he didn’t know that there was a hell and wanted to return to earth to inform his relatives.” But Christ said, “If He didn’t believe in the Prophets, they won’t believe you either…not even if One should be raised from the dead (implying the Resurrection). If you want to actively be gay that’s fine, but I don’t think it’s right to say that you’re Catholic when your views are in COMPLETE contradiction with the Church’s teachings and her popes. You would be surprised though to find out that the Catholic Church actually LOVES gays and homosexuals! But enough to want their souls to gain eternal life someday. Mother Teresa called homosexuals “friends of Jesus” and the new Pope we have washed and kissed the feet of 12 AIDS patients in a drug rehab center in Argentina. Here is a video explaining more in case you’re interested: http://www.youtube.com/embed/crfAsWacA-w?rel=0 I would genuinely LOVE to know your opinion on this because I think you are an awesome person and I love you so much. And pray for you all the time.

  • Marie

    Hello Johnny, I am 18 years old, I live in London (even though I’m American), and you are my ALL TIME favorite figure skater in the WORLD. I love you SO SO SO MUCH and you inspire me so much as well. You are the one of the most BEAUTIFUL creatures and artists alive and i really mean that. As much as I love you, I genuinely want your opinion and perspective on something. You see I find it confusing because you often contradict yourself in your posts or interviews. You say that you are a Roman Catholic and believe in God and yet…the Catholic Church doesn’t share your views or beliefs at all. I mean, you can’t break God’s Commandments and expect a free pass to Heaven. Of course being homosexual is fine and not wrong AT ALL but actively living out that kind of lifestyle is repeatedly condemned in the Bible. You either love Jesus or hate Him. He’s a DANGEROUS man because His words can send a person to Hell or Heaven.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v… Like that guy who Jesus talked about in the Bible who found himself in Hell. He claimed that “he didn’t know that there was a hell and wanted to return to earth to inform his relatives.” But Christ said, “If they didn’t believe in the Prophets, they won’t believe you either…not even if One should be raised from the dead (implying the Resurrection). If you want to actively be gay that’s fine, but I don’t think it’s right to say that you’re Catholic when your views are in complete contradiction with the Church’s teachings and her popes. You would be surprised though to find out that the Catholic Church actually LOVES gays and homosexuals! But enough to want their souls to gain eternal life someday for instance Mother Teresa called homosexuals “friends of Jesus” and the new Pope we have washed and kissed the feet of 12 AIDS patients in a drug rehab center in Argentina. Here is a video explaining more in case you’re interested: http://www.youtube.com/embed/c… I would genuinely LOVE to know your opinion on this because I think you are an awesome person and I love you so much. God has given you such an amazing talent, please don’t waste it…use it to glorify Him. And I pray for you all the time. God Bless you Johnny <3

  • Marie

    Hello Johnny, I am 18 years old, I live in London (even though I’m American), and you are my ALL TIME favorite figure skater in the WORLD. I love you SO SO SO MUCH and you inspire me so much as well. You are the one of the most BEAUTIFUL creatures and artists alive and i really mean that. As much as I love you, I genuinely want your opinion and perspective on something. You see I find it confusing because you often contradict yourself in your posts or interviews. You say that you are a Roman Catholic and believe in God and yet…the Catholic Church doesn’t share your views or beliefs at all. I mean, you can’t break God’s Commandments and expect a free pass to Heaven. Of course being homosexual is fine and not wrong AT ALL but actively living out that kind of lifestyle is repeatedly condemned in the Bible. You either love Jesus or hate Him. He’s a DANGEROUS man because His words can send a person to Hell or Heaven. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m8gUO75KhGc Like that guy who Jesus talked about in the Bible who found himself in Hell. He claimed that “he didn’t know that there was a hell and wanted to return to earth to inform his relatives.” But Christ said, “If they didn’t believe in the Prophets, they won’t believe you either…not even if One should be raised from the dead (implying the Resurrection). If you want to actively be gay that’s fine, but I don’t think it’s right to say that you’re Catholic when your views are in complete contradiction with the Church’s teachings and her popes. You would be surprised though to find out that the Catholic Church actually LOVES gays and homosexuals! But enough to want their souls to gain eternal life someday for instance Mother Teresa called homosexuals “friends of Jesus” and the new Pope we have washed and kissed the feet of 12 AIDS patients in a drug rehab center in Argentina. Here is a video explaining more in case you’re interested:http://www.youtube.com/embed/c… I would genuinely LOVE to know your opinion on this because I think you are an awesome person and I love you so much. God has given you such an amazing talent, please don’t waste it…use it to glorify Him. And I pray for you all the time. God Bless you Johnny <3

  • Marie

    I’m sorry, this is the first time I have ever commented on your posts before and I accidentally posted it three times! Sorry about that! I really hope and pray you read my post though and watch the two videos I posted. My email address is piano94@gmail.com and I would LOVE for you to answer my question Johnny! Love you!

  • Marie

    Sorry again! I think my last video didn’t properly post in my last comment so here it is: http://www.youtube.com/embed/crfAsWacA-w?rel=0 and I really hope you take three minutes to watch it! Love you lots and pray for you all the time and think you are the most beautiful and artistic ice-skater that ever lived! Marie

  • http://www.facebook.com/marilyn.willett.5 Marilyn Willett

    I love you so much, I am a born again believer, I pray to Jesus for you sometimes. Jesus loves you.
    I hope so much that you are in the olympics next year because first of all you are the very best & 2nd’ of all you have turned skating into an art and the other skaters do not.

  • http://www.facebook.com/marilyn.willett.5 Marilyn Willett

    I pray for your soul and for your safety and good health.

  • http://www.facebook.com/marilyn.willett.5 Marilyn Willett

    Put Jesus first Johnny, and then yourself.

  • http://twitter.com/ElkMiss Miss Anne Elk

    I enjoyed and appreciated your column very much. Too bad I scrolled down and read all the freak show going on in the comments.

    Believe in yourself! Because even if there is a god, do you honestly think he/she/it could be bothered with figure skating? It hasn’t had time to help innocent victims of wars, diseases and all kinds of catastrophes at all yet, so it might take it a few thousand years to get to every single sport man (and woman) waiting for a miracle.

    So better work hard, believe in yourself, if something doesn’t work fix it/change it, believe in yourself, do things for yourself and not anyone else, believe in yourself and the people who truly love you and have your well being as a priority: your parents, your husband, the rest of your family and your true friends.

    Whatever you do from here on, I hope YOU make YOURSELF proud and happy. Everybody else can suck it! (Hardcore fans, as myself, included.)

    I believe in myself and I believe that “All brontosauruses are thin at one end, much, much thicker in the middle, and then thin again at the far end.”

  • Marie

    I thought I should mention in reply to Miss Anne Elk…that God DOES care about figure skating because He cares about Johnny’s soul. I think ice skating is a means to glorify God…Johnny said himself that he “feel closest to God when he ice-skates.” I love you Johnny. You are so special!

  • http://www.facebook.com/marilyn.willett.5 Marilyn Willett

    You should believe in God before yourself, God is perfect.

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